Downsizing
First posted 2015
Many of the so- called baby boomer era are facing empty nesters’ syndrome. That is to say, their once boisterous, happy homes are now quiet wastelands of space.
According to CIGNA HealthCare, family life cycles have five stages:
- Independence from your parents
- Settling down with a partner
- Becoming a parent to your own children
- Launching your adult children into their own independence stage
- Your retirement years
There has been an upsurge in the housing market, which in turn, has led to many couples who are coming into their retirement years, selling their homes and either moving into condos, tiny homes, like the one pictured above, or RV’s.
We chose the latter route. With our daughter grown and hundreds of miles away, we found ourselves alone and lonely in a five bedroom bi-level that was much too big. My mother had a suite downstairs, but most of the time it felt like we were simply keeping the dust bunnies company.
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Our new home may not be thirteen hundred square feet, but it can take us to places we’ve never seen before.
And maybe even relieve some of that, ‘What are we going to do without our kids?’ feeling we all go through sooner or later.
How about you? What do you do to relieve that empty nester’s syndrome?
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Great blog Jacquie
We moved from a rambling rancher on a Gulf Island to a townhouse on Vancouver Island. I like that there’s less housework, but I hate that when the kids and grandkids come to visit we’re pinched for space. There doesn’t seem to be a perfect size for us. lol. But I do love the commotion of the young ones.
I love your motor home and the fact that it can go anywhere. How cool is that!
I enjoyed your post.
my best
Jo-Ann Carson
Smart,Sexy Suspense
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Thanks for stopping by, Jo-Ann. I know what you mean about crowded 🙂 We cooked Thanksgiving here. Between minuscule counter space and a rambunctious eight year old the trailer was full, mostly with love, which is what it’s all about 🙂
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Love this post, Jacquie! I have many years ahead before I can retire, but the idea of downsizing right now is so appealing to me. I think by simplifying our surroundings we are forced to get out there and live the life we deserve. Then we can spend more time doing the things we love – like WRITING 🙂 Thanks for sharing!
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You’re so right, Stephanie. We tend to make our lives much more complicated than we need. Don’t wait too long, you want to be young enough to enjoy those dreams 🙂
Thanks for stopping by the blog,
Jacquie
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Enjoyed this post, Jacquie! We still have teenagers at home, with tons of their friends, and our 3,000 SF home often feels too small. But in a few years, I know the house will feel huge and empty. I’m dreading it!
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I know what you mean. Our house was the local hangout for all our daughter’s friends. We were lost when they grew up! It was a tough decision to give up a lot of our possessions, but now I’m so glad we did. 🙂
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Great post, Jacquie. Our neighbors haven’t exactly downsized, but they leave Texas every summer and travel all over in their RV. Sometimes they go in the fall and winter, too. I love the “cuteness” of the space. The “everything has it’s own place” thing.
We are empty nesters, but over the years have been glad for all our extra space because both daughters have returned to the nest, bringing spouses and later kids with them. And when the electricity goes off in their neighborhood in a storm, we mostly have it, so everyone comes here.
However, by next spring we’ll have left our 2700 sq. ft house to move into a 1700 sq. ft house on a lake not far away. We are thrilled to have this opportunity. I know this is not “tiny” in the since of “tiny house” on HGTV, but we’ll have to get rid of a slew of stuff!
On a deeper level, I do think we can become captured by all our “things.” My mother’s philosophy was” get rid of the old to make room for the new.” It’s definitely time to do that. I’ll share. 🙂
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Thanks Marsha 🙂 I imagine there will be a lot of big decisions in your future on what to keep and what to let go of. Funny thing is, we can’t even remember half of what we gave away now that we’ve downsized, yet at the time it broke our hearts to let the ‘things’ go.
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We have the most beautiful 18 foot trailer. I love it! I’d live in it if I could, but currently we tried to downsize and not quick enough, because the children moved back in! Unfortunately that’s a big issue these days, children moving back in… It’s tough all around. But to be able to just get away from it all with my trailer is how we spend our summers (and make one child stay to watch the dogs).
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So true, Melissa, cost of living forces more and more families to live under one roof. My mom and little brother lived with us for the past twenty years since my dad passed away. He only recently moved out. When we sold the house we bought my mom a smaller version of our trailer and now she lives beside us 🙂
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Thanks for sharing your downsizing journey, Jacquie. Exciting times ahead!
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Hi Joanne, you bet 🙂 Some think we’re crazy but as long as it works for us, that’s what counts.
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I am so proud of you for living out your dreams. I know down sizing was hard fo r you but I haven’t seen you this content in many years! Can’t wait to come visit and see your dreams coming true beforehand re my eyes
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We really are, Ethel. The big house and fancy toys were great, but it’s so nice to live worry free again. I can’t wait for you to see our little slice of heaven either 🙂
Love you!
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Motor homes and travelling about is a great idea, Jacquie. It isn’t common here at all but I know a few bloggers in the US who have this lifestyle. Have a lovely weekend.
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Thank you, Robbie! It took a while to get used to the smaller space, but we’re old pros at it now 🙂
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I’m just becoming an empty-nester. And I hate it. I want my kids with me, not thousands of miles away. I’ll adapt, though. The only thing constant is change, right?
Thanks for the freebies.
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I was lost in the beginning- DH worked a province away, the girl-child was in university and my grandson had started kindergarten- I was lonely.
That’s when I decided to write and it opened a whole new world, and friends, to me 🙂
You’ll still have them on the holidays and the rest of the time you have us ❤
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I do love my second family. Thanks, Jacquie. ❤
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We seem to have avoided the empty nester’s syndrome…Will it ever happen for us?… I am beginning to think not…We have 6 children and grandchildren and they all went their own ways and then for various reasons between properties and things came back…We then moved to Thailand and here everyone lives together so the young end up looking after the old …My son is building a house with room for his wife’s mother and us if we want… Do we? What would we do after so many years of co-sharing which for us works we all respect everyone’s space but share in the cooking, shopping and bringing up the grandchildren.? Your post has made me think and I think an RV is a wonderful idea and a way to travel around…but we travel sometimes alone and sometimes altogether..For us, it works and is something of the norm here 🙂
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I know exactly what you mean, Carol. My dad passed away many years ago, leaving Mom and my youngest brother- only eleven- alone. We made the decision to move to a house with a mother-in-law suite so they could have some support.
They stayed with us through another move and then my daughter and grandson moved a province away for university and we followed, temporarily, to help them get settled, fell in love with the island and decided to stay!
At first, we kept the house for Mom and my brother to stay in, but then he moved in with his girlfriend, leaving Mom in a big, empty house. We made another mutual decision, sold the house and moved Mom into her own RV next door to us 🙂
We miss our family, but love the people and lack of WINTER on the island! lol
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I love the lack of winter also, Jacquie but we do what we have to do and it keeps us young and happy and yes we will always miss someone but it makes the visits more special…Enjoy your weekend 🙂 xx
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What an amazing way to spend retirement! My husband and I have been having many conversations about condo living when we can’t physically take care of this land. Enjoy it sounds wonderful!
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Thank you, Diane. It’s a big decision, but we’re happy we downsized 🙂
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Hahaha. That is the size of downsize. Hmm wonder if books and other reads will be downsized…
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They already have, in a way. We’ve moved to digital for reading and now there’s a big trend toward audio books- the future is changing 🙂
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I have thought about the digital as a downsizing. On the otherhand all could be reduced to a 10-word story. LOL!
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Holy, I hope not! Lol
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You can never tell. I don’t. know which way we are headed Vigilance is an order.
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