What do you do when faced with rejection?
Spring is one of the leading times for suicide. Contrary to the popular belief that the cold and darkness of winter, added to the financial crush of the holidays, cause spikes in depression leading to death, it’s actually the promise of summer that seems to be a leading factor.
So is this an environmental issue?
This is from Live Science
Suicide in America
There were 38,364 suicides in the United States in 2010, according to the most recent data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). Those numbers put suicide as the 10th leading cause of death for all ages, and the third leading cause of death for people 15 to 24 years old. The topic of suicide was thrust into the headlines recently with the death of L’Wren Scott, a fashion designer whose March 17 death was ruled a suicide by police.
Women are more likely than men to say they have suicidal thoughts, but 79 percent of completed suicides in the United States are done by men. This is perhaps because men tend to choose more lethal means for suicide: About 56 percent of male suicide deaths are caused by firearms, according to the CDC. In contrast, the most common way for women to complete a suicide is by poisoning (37 percent of cases).
The social explanation suggests people who are vulnerable to suicidal behavior face more challenges when the weather warms and social interaction increases. Alternatively, people who are struggling may feel left out of the increase in social engagements — essentially, they feel that the isolation of winter has withdrawn for everyone except for them.
What can we do to avoid situations like this?
I think a key factor is something my grandmother taught me a long time ago.
“Treat others the way you would wish to be treated.”
Sounds simple, doesn’t it?
You’d be surprised how many fail to follow this basic life lesson. If we just take that moment to listen-really listen- to the people we care about maybe they wouldn’t feel so alone.
I had a friend in my hometown, she thought she had the perfect life. A good job at the bank, three healthy kids, her mother nearby, and a loving relationship with a good, kind man. Yet somewhere, something was dreadfully wrong.
Christmas five years ago, he went outside to the backyard and shot himself.
In some cases I think there’s nothing we can do to change outcomes like these, but what about the other times? The times where a few kind words could make the difference between life and death.
My wish for 2016 is that we all take the time to smile at a stranger. Buy a person down on their luck a coffee or a hot meal. And most of all, don’t take the people you care about for granted- life is too short.
God bless, and Happy New Year